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Many parents and teachers in the trenches teach social skills strategies every day. If you're one of them, we would love to hear your experiences. Share your know-how, social skills successes, and even your failures. Let's learn from each other how to manage social skills weaknesses with effective teaching strategies. Share Your Know-How

how to develop social skills

My 13 year old son has a low self esteem due to LD, he finds it very difficult to apprach people even of his own age group to communicate. Because of this he's also getting teased and picked on at school by a group of boys. I have tried to give him tips on how to make friends, but he says," boys in my class keep away from me, however hard I try. Nobody speaks to me". I really want to help him. please help, is there anywhere I can take him for counsilling to help him develop social skills. Its upsetting to see that he never gets invited to any b'day parties in the school. Looking forward to your advice.
—Guest sapna

love your disabled child

I'm the only family member with a disability, a rare one at that. /I never was in wedding party, had a birthday or Xmas gift. I went to a non accredited 'special' school even though a Catholic School was in the next block, where my siblings went. My parents never introduced me to others in public, but boasted about my\e siblings' accomplishments. PLEASE do not treat your disabled child this way! Can you imagine the pain of watching family members exchanging hugs and presents when there's none for you? It's HELL
—merry1953mary

Shyness

Let her know what her gifts are and how wonderful she is. Get her involved in music or art acitivities or whatever it is she likes. Take her to events where she can engage other kids. The one thing you do not want to do is to isolate her. She will develop social skills the more she engages her peers. And again, continue to reinforce her gifts and self image. I have a daughter who also was very shy due to poor self image. I paid close attention to her mood and reinforced how beautiful she is and her gifts. I enrolled her in gymnastics and tai kwon do to build her confidence and remained vigilant and close to her to dispel the impact of negative talk or teasing. Your daughter has strength born in her. Help her find the value within herself and nurture that. Lee Orr
—Guest Nurture her Strengths

Tapping on Desk

Tapping on the desk may be a tension reducing strategy. Offer students alternatives that might be less disruptive. Offer a soft mouse pad for tapping. Flip the pad upside down for even quieter taps.
—AnnLogsdon

how to keep students from tapping on des

I have a students who taps all the time. how can you help me!
—Guest robertjones

Teaching Social Skills

I am a school psychologist who works with a variety of regular and special education students. I spend a lot of time helping kids develop better social skills. It is a challenging area but also so rewarding to see children begin to build friendships and learn to relate to other people. If you are a parent, teacher or other professional with an autistic child please take a look at my website, childrensucceed.com One of the articles, "Beat the Play Date Blues" might be helpful. It can be found here: http://childrensucceed.com/article_beat%20the%20playdate%20blues.php. Also, the ultimate goal of all of the games featured on the site is to develop communication and social skills in autistic children. I hope this is helpful.
—joanenash

Shyness

My 10 year old daughter is really shy because of her disability that affects her speech. Does anyone have ideas I can try?
—RachelBingham

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