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Top 7 Behavior Management Tips

Behavior Management Helps Reduce Your Child's Behavior Problems


Updated April 22, 2014

Behavior management is a great tool to help parents with behavior management. Is Your Child's Behavior a Problem at home or school? If so, you're not alone. A teacher or counselor can help with your child's specific behavior problems. Some students with learning disabilities or ADHD need a behavior modification plan in their IEPs, but many behaviors can be minimized by controlling your response them. With these tips, you can decrease behavior problems using redirection. The goal of redirection is to teach the student to monitor and correct his own behavior.

1. Ensure the Child Understands Why Her Behavior is a Problem

Reduce Behavior Problems with Behavior Management
While it may seem a child should "know better," talking about behavior is an important first step in behavior management. Some students do not think about their behavior or anticipate consequences when they have impulse control problems and difficulty picking up on social expectations. Describe problem behavior in a firm but non-confrontational tone. Some students respond better to a whispered reminder than a loud voice. Explain the behavior in specific terms the student will understand, and state why it is a problem.

  • Do Say:Throwing the baseball in the house can hurt someone.
  • Don't Say:Stop rough-housing.

2. Explain Why Behavior is a Problem and What Will Be Done About It

Keep Communication Open for Effective Behavior Management
Clearly state the problems caused by the student's behavior. The student may be getting on your last nerve, but avoid criticizing him in a personal way. Realize you may need to repeat this strategy over time until the child stops the problem behavior.

  • Do Say:Your clothes are dirty because they were under your bed and not placed in the laundry basket. I'll show you how to wash them.
  • Don't Say:If you're too lazy to put your clothes in the basket, I'm not washing them.

3. Model Appropriate Behavior for Your Child

Behavior Management Involves Demonstrating Correct Behavior
Before responding to the behavior, it can be helpful to take three deep breaths to relax and think about what the best response would be. Calmly but firmly, explain the behavior you want the child to perform. Use specific language to describe what the child should or should not do. Strive to keep a firm but unemotional tone that is free from sarcasm.

  • Do Say:Use a quiet voice inside the restaurant.
  • Don't Say:Act right.

4. Show By Your Actions and Attitude that You Believe in Your Child

Behavior Management Works Best When Used with Confidence
Encourage and reinforce the child's positive behaviors whenever possible. Although you may be frustrated by behavior, speak positively to the child and let her know you have confidence in her.

5. Recognize That Behavior Change Can Take Time

Patience is Important in Behavior Management
Give honest, specific praise for any progress the child makes toward meeting behavior goals, even if he does not meet the goal in its entirety.

6. Plan Ahead for Safe and Appropriate Options When Behavior is a Problem

Provide Accommodations in Advance for Effective Behavior Management
Know what situations cause problems for her, and prepare safe alternatives for her. Young children may enjoy role-playing ahead of time to learn the rules and expectations of the setting you will be in. Rehearse with them what they can do if they become angry or need to release some energy. Breathing techniques, taking a quick walk with a parent, playing word games, practicing math facts, and guessing games are often helpful for kids of all ages.

7. Share Your Behavior Management Strategies

Parents and Teachers Share Behavior Management Strategies
Do you have a story about behavior management you would like to share? We want to hear about it. Readers would love to hear your experiences and tips. Have you tried a program that was great? Have you used a strategy that just didn't work for you? If so, we want to know. Share your experiences here.

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